Being On My Own Have Helped Me Stay Off Trouble
Hello my friends, its been a while here. On a very serious note I have missed you all so much. This is holiday season so we have to take good care of ourselves and the kids. We took the kids to their cousins and in a different location, I most say it has been so refreshing at least we are getting ready to go back to school you know what that means for parents 🤪🤪🤪🤪.
Growing up there are behaviours which our parents inculcated into us that now we are on our own it is difficult to let go of them, so that have made it be like a habit, well I am not regretting it at all because it has helped me stay away from trouble in no little way.
While growing we reside in a hospital environment that is Federal Medical Center Umuahia, my Dad was the Sexton of the Chapel till his demise. You can imagine the kind of congregation and the kind of neighbours we had at that time.
Now my mother instructed us not to take our play beyond our compound, friends that was not an easy instruction to be kept by children. Good enough we were five in number so at least we formed a congregation. We kept ourselves company and when we are tired of playing we go and rest a little. Do we actually get tired as children? It is almost impossible for children to get tire because they have so much energy and need a way to burn it off.
This is how we grew and was very serious children. Those around already knows us with that kind of habit, to a great extent it is good but in another way I was anti social. Staying and associating with people was so difficult for me, at least am trying very well now.
One good thing helped me to do is, it has helped me to learn how to mind my business. Let me tell you one story When I went University first I was staying in the hostel before I got accommodation outside the campus. Now, you know how ladies enjoy gisting and been in the company of another but this is one thing I dislike so much because I saw it as waste of time. The girls in my room came to know Deborah as someone who does not have time for much gist. My movement was from my hostel to the kitchen, lecture hall, library and fellowship. Most times they will use the Hausa language to talk about me and that didn't bother me so much, one I decided to stay a little and gist with my room mates and they were so surprised.
Now I have stayed out of many trouble which I may not be able to mention here. Even as a married woman I have continued with this kind of attitude and I have no regrets at all. Good enough I am working remotely so I don't have much need to go outside my flat unless I need water or want to go for an activity outside the compound.
Forming a good habit is very nice and can be emulated now I do my best to inculcate same habits to my children but i will love they do better when it comes to social habit.
Thank you for visiting my blog today. I will be glad to read about that one habit that have influenced you so much.
Stay blessed and happy New Month
All in all, personally, I have found that one experiences peace in their life when they mind their business and stay in their lane when necessary. You should embrace and be grateful for your true self.
That peace is very important in all. Thanks for the contribution
This habit of yours often gets tagged as being antisocial and stuff like that. However, as far as I can tell, that's exactly the life I live and I'm very happy with that.
I know I don't ever have issue interacting with people or socializing. However, I also know that I can spend a whole week indoor and still be very happy about my life. Hehe.
As far as you enjoy it, just keep it up and don't bother about what people say. Hehe.
Antisocial is the word. As I said most days of the week it is Church activities that takes my legs off the compound.
Thanks for visiting kene
as an introvert, keeping only a few close friends, most of the time alone, people would often mistake it as lonely. But only those who have enjoyed the peace that comes with it will understand.
Well...am I actually an introvert? I don't need of going up and down unless for a visit or program.
Thank you naija