The weight of unspoken words
"Because I lived so long and left so many people behind, I realized that it is not the absence of the deceased that troubles us, but the words that remain unspoken between us"
Sussana Tamaro, from "Follow your hearth".
There are many types of people on this blue planet.
Someone is emotional, someone has empathy... Someone has a warm heart, someone is attentive, caring, "Loves his neighbor", and someone is not all of that.
I don't know how he who is not, lives, what goes through his mind, what kind of feeling cools his heart.
All I know is that I'm so cold, I wouldn't be able to function.
When I saw the topic we were assigned, I thought about my life and actions and am I too late?
𝓣𝓱𝓮 𝓽𝓸𝓹𝓲𝓬𝓼
If you could give someone you have wronged a heartfelt apology, who would it be and why? How would you feel afterwards and how would it affect you moving forward?
We were walking around Rotterdam when I saw this quote on the sidewalk.
Reminded me of a situation I've been in several times.
It wasn't too late, but it encouraged me to act in life so that I don't wait until it's too late and I'm sorry.
I remember a time from my youth, when I visited my sick uncle several times, just to be with him.
Then he said to me: "I'm sorry that only my illness was the reason for the two of us to hang out, but I'm still glad that you came to visit me".
I was also very glad, because he passed away soon.
I didn't have the best relationship with my father from an early age.
I moved out of the house where we lived, and we never said "Sorry" to each other for all the ugly words that were said (there were never any ugly acts 🙂).
At the end of 2019, he became seriously ill, and during the two months of his illness, I see him every day and we talk about all the disagreements and quarrels we had.
Before he left us, we said to each other: "I'm sorry". There was time.
If not, the question is how much such a difficult relationship with my father would have pressured me in my life.
Like this, I remember that we said goodbye like real friends.
And that gave me a lot of direction in life, how I'm going to treat people.
In order not to be late, if I wrong someone, send a harsh word, insult or cause them some damage, I try to smooth out the relationship immediately or as soon as possible, send an apology, "Thank you", repay the debt...
That's why today I live with a clear conscience and without a burden on my heart.
I have no outstanding accounts with anyone.
I didn't hold a grudge against anyone, I didn't offend anyone and I don't owe anyone anything.
If I was late for some other things in my life, for saying "I'm sorry", I wasn't.
That's why today, when I see a sunset like this, I know that at least I'm not late for that "Sorry".
I know there will be other days when I will probably make a mistake, but I will not wait for the sun to touch the hotisont, but I will correct the damage immediately.
The word "Sorry" is sometimes difficult to say, but if it is not said, it can later emotionally destroy the person who did not say it, especially the one who saw his last sunset.
Wonderful post. I'm glad you were able to work out the differences with your father. Many people don't and that creates heartache in their hearts and makes it difficult for them to relate to other people with a clean heart, with the humility to recognize when they have acted wrongly and need to ask for forgiveness.
Thank you 🙂
Due to the illness that befell him, we had little time... But what if he had gone at once, without being able to ask for his forgiveness or to forgive him? All my life I would remember that we ended in a bad way.
For this reason, I decided not to leave the situation unresolved even for a moment...