NO GOOD DEED GOES UNPUNISHED. WELL, I GUESS.
There is a certain way in which I will act and amazed of my actions, and there is also a certain way I behave which always makes me disgusted.
I would not say that I know myself very well because every day, I discover some attributes that make me question the knowledge I have of myself. Subconsciously, I know how to bring up new attitudes, all depending on the place, time and people I am interacting with.
As said earlier, there are things I do that are disappointing to even my own self.
One thing about me is that I love being too nice.
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Most people always begin to feel entitled and tend to feel annoyed when they ask me for something and I dont have to give. They begin to feel like it's their right for me to always be kind to them and some tend to always take me for nothing, just someone they can play with because he cares a lot but to me, I am just being who I am.
I remember when I was still in school, I use to be nice to one of my coursemates. I always provided what he needs even before he asks. I will cook and call him to come eat. It was like I am his father. All of a sudden, he began to feel entitled. Things changed drastically and I was surprised by the attitudes he was displaying. He even fought me one day because I asked him why he went into my room to take sachet water without my knowledge. I was really furious but tried as much as possible to remain calm.
After the incident, I began t advise myself against giving people helping hands but all to no avail.
I always try to be the most kind person on earth when it comes to my friends but well, most of them try to make use of that part of me.
One thing I always tell myself when people turn against me is that: "no good deed goes unpunished."
I saw this quote online some years ago and I don't know the author.
When I see people who have this same character, I don't do anything because advising them against it has a higher probability of being futile. A kind person will always be kind irrespective of what the world throws at him or her.
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One of the things I've learned about life is that the way some people act is usually a reflection of how people have been reacting to them in the past. Many people are naturally kind but they always hold themselves back from performing kind acts because they don't want to be taken advantage of.
That's actually sad, but it's the reality we all face. Many people in Nigeria no longer feel comfortable giving money to homeless people because there have been several situations where people got in deep shit for showing kindness to homeless folks.
The quote you shared in the post hits really hard. Keep being you. Just don't let people to cross lines because of their feeling of entitlement.
It takes lots of experience with people to understand this. Most people always want to pass down what the feel or what they experience to he other person irrespective of how brutal it may be.
I came to realize that quote when things like this have occured more than once but one bad thing or should I say good thing about me is that I will never stop being what I need to be in other to make people happy, even at the expense of my own happiness. Haha
That's the disadvantage of being over nice, hehe
U get to be taken for granted and may not feel good about it
However, that shouldn't stop us from being or remaining nice
Let our gaze be to some reward higher
No matter what challenges we face, I do not think there is anything that should stop us from being nice.
The smile you put on another persons face, has a way of brightening the world.
I don't know why people feel entitled most times. That's what has made some people decide not to help others again because each time they do, the people helped begin to see it as their responsibility and when they're unable to help again, they begin to say annoying things against them.
This doesn't mean that we should quit being good, though.
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I d not know why people tend to behave in that manner but well, life always happens
I salute you, sir! I believe it's a great thing to be kind-hearted as kindness is also one of the characters of the Holy Spirit, but there should be a balance in everything we do in life, more especially when it concerns other parties. When you are too kind to people, they complain and say ugly things behind your back, when you withdraw your good a bit, then, you are ripe for another level of silly talks.
There are some acts of kindness that are good but not expedient, and some that are important but not compulsory. I have learnt to help without expecting a thank you or a material reward, so as to set my heart at peace without being disappointed knowing I am not owing anyone and no one is owing me. If you appreciate, good and if you don't it's still fine, that won't stop me from being whom I am.
Thanks for the post!
#dreemerforlife
The level of entitlement of some people is way out of this world but it should not hinder us from doing good.
Thank you for sharing.
#dreemerforlife
You're right.
Thank you for stopping by dreemer